It is that time of year again—parents are getting their children ready for the life-changing experience of leaving for college, which involves for both parties such a wide range of emotions: pride, joy, excitement, panic, sadness, separation anxiety. My own best friend is in the midst of preparing for when her 18-year old son boards a plane next month at Newark Airport to begin his college adventure at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, far from his hometown of Great Neck, New York. Today the most e-mailed article in the New York Times is about the subject of what is often referred to by academics as "helicopter parents" or "velcro parents." The name of the article? "Students, Welcome to College; Parents, Go Home."
The best book on the subject of what the college years entail is Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the College Years by Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger. Based on real-life experience and recommended by colleges and universities around the country, Letting Go offers compassionate, practical, and up-to-the-minute information to help parents with the emotional and social changes of the college years, such as:
• When should parents encourage independence?
• When should they intervene?
• What issues of identity and intimacy await students?
• What are normal feelings of disorientation and loneliness for students—and for parents?
• What is different about today’s college environment?
• What new concerns about safety, health and wellness, and stress will affect incoming classes?
The fifth edition features updated research on admissions and finances; identity and student development; student attitudes, including political and social views; health concerns and behaviors; use and abuse of alcohol and other drugs; choices of majors and careers; religious and spiritual beliefs and practices. This edition also includes examples of new programs and practices on campus that address growing concerns about mental health; safety and security; and sustainability; as well as new opportunities for international study, undergraduate research, interdisciplinary majors, and increased interaction with faculty.
The authors offer resources to Letting Go such as their free workshop guide--or you can invite the authors to speak on your campus. Plus, you can send parents this free audio which will prepare them to let go.
Free brochures in shrink-wrapped packs of 100 are available for orientation events. Please e-mail us to order.